what i want in Y.O.U

How do we know if she or he is ‘the one’? What makes us sure that this person is the one who we’ll build a family and grow old with? What are the desirable traits that one looks for in their soul mate? For sure almost all of us look for the same typical traits such as loving, kind, caring, sense of humour etc. in the ‘the one’. The good looks and big banks are merely just luck and a bonus. But, what do we really want in this ideal mate?

One of the traits that I would look for will be sincerity. His love has to be sincere because of who I am and not what I am. I don’t want someone to love me and shower me with love out of sympathy or out of any feelings of pity. Sincerity is important for me because the love comes right from the heart and not from desires. There were ups and downs in past (and present) relationships. There was honesty but such a small amount (or none) of sincerity. I don’t know why but I feel that ‘sincerity’ is a stronger word than ‘honesty’ although they pretty much bring similar meanings. However, I feel that honesty means being truthful and sincere means being pure.

Another trait would be sensitivity. I feel that he being sensitive would make me feel important and needed. I would want him to have jealousy but not possessiveness. I want him to care of how I present myself but not what I wear. I want him to know if I’m upset or happy…disappointed or pleased and would acknowledge it. I want him to shed a tear and not hold it back (a rational level of ego). I want him to share his thoughts and wanting me to be there to talk to, but not to keep it since communication is vital.

There’s so much more to list down the desirable traits of ‘the one’ which I, one day, want to refer as my other half. What I’ve mentioned above is one of the two important traits that I’m hoping to find in the soul mate. But I guess that is just me being feminine and that all the little things matters.


my assignment on 'Women in Literature - Femininity: What are the desirable traits in an ideal mate'